these 10 relationship
headaches solutions are what you need to turn things
around:
1. Low Trust
Low trust is the most frustrating thing to deal with
in a relationship because it brings everything else into
question. But low trust is also easy to fix if you take
on a proactive mindset by clarifying expectations upfront
and keeping open lines of honest communication.
2. Neediness
Few things are more frustrating than the feeling that
your partner is suffocating you with neediness. If this
is the case, step back and ask yourself where you need to
draw physical and emotional boundaries.
You might even realize that not drawing boundaries is
what is opening the door for your partner to suffocate
you.
3. Boundary Issues
No matter how close your relationship is, it's
important that you have a clear distinction of where your
personal boundaries are. If your partner isn't respecting
your individual right to make choices, to have opinions
and to have your own personal space, the best thing to do
is make those things clear and to stand your ground.
If you do this, your partner will learn to respect your
boundaries.
4. Social Circle Clashes
Does your partner have their own social circle who you
can't stand? If so, it's important that you don't try to
surgically remove your partner's friends from their life.
Instead, clarify your feelings towards the friends
that you don't like and give your partner some space to
spend time with those people by themselves.
Then your partner can decide which relationship is more
important to them.
5. Money Problems
Money problems are probably the key relationship
headaches, and the cause for most divorces in North
America. However, much of your money problems can be
solved simply by keeping your finances separate and
splitting things 50/50.
This will help each person to maintain a personal sense
of responsibility and independence.
6. Lack of Understanding
Lack of understanding is at the root of most
relationship problems and it can lead to lack of trust,
boundary issues and all kinds of other problems. The best
way to cultivate understanding is to obey relationship
expert Dr. Steven Covey's advice:
"Seek first to understand and then to be understood."
If you do this, your partner will most likely
reciprocate.
7. Boredom
This might sound funny, but boredom is often the cause
of infidelity and apathy in a relationship. But boredom
can also be cured easily by making a commitment to doing
things with your partner that are new for you both and a
little spontaneous.
A great way to overcome boredom is to commit to a
weekly date night and also a monthly activity where you
try something that is completely new.
8. Apathy
Indifference is the kiss of death in any relationship,
but it usually comes about as a result of emotional
exhaustion and frustration in trying to "make things
work." The key to overcoming apathy is to be
proactive in clarifying expectations, drawing boundaries
and cultivating understanding with your partner.
If apathy has already become a problem in your
relationship, the best place to start is by shaking things
up and adding some excitement.
Once this is done, you need to commit immediately to
clarifying expectations, drawing boundaries and
cultivating understanding with your partner.
9. Sexual Dissatisfaction
This is a really big deal for men and usually a much
bigger deal for women than they allow themselves to
express openly.
It's important that you never take your sex life for
granted and never assume that your partner is completely
satisfied. Having a healthy sex life requires consistent
communication and creativity.
10. Coldness
If your partner is being cold to you, it can be natural
to become defensive and on guard when it comes to your
feelings. But coldness is normally caused by a feeling of
being misunderstood.
This is a time to practice the art of seeking first to
understand than to be understood. The more understood
your partner feels, their more they'll open up and warm up
towards you again.
Now you have the tools to deal with 10 of the most
potentially difficult problems in relationships.
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