You've probably heard that one of the most common practices of successful people is "positive" thinking. Blah...blah...blah That term seems condescending to me...somehow better than me. It makes me angry sometimes. I know I can't be positive all the time. Give me a break. Sometimes I'm just angry...and I WANT to be angry. How easy is it to really make positive thinking a practice in your life? Sure, you've probably had good days where you could keep your thoughts positive and empowering. But what about those days when it just seems that nothing is going right, and you can't seem to keep the flies of negative thought from ruining your picnic? I'm here to tell you...it's okay, man. You're okay! I have a couple of tips... If you're curious about the solution to this "negative" thinking dilemma, try this simple yet powerful strategy... Reframing Your Thoughts The first key to stamping out negative thoughts fast is to accept that your thoughts not only influence your actions, but that they are also influenced BY the actions which you take in response to them. In other words, when you allow fear to influence you to act fearfully, that fear is only going to grow more and more powerful. But if you refuse to allow fear to influence you to fearful actions, and if you choose acts of courage instead, you'll find that your fear will take on a context: excitement. Think about this: biologically, the differences between fear and excitement aren't any different. They both cause accelerated heartbeat, rapid breathing and a heightening of your physical senses. But there is an enormous difference in the frame of mind that accompanies fear and that which accompanies excitement, and that frame of mind is influenced by your experiences. For example, if you fear rejection and choose to retreat into the privacy of your own thoughts, you're only reinforcing what you fear through what psychologists call "self-rejection." On the other hand, you choose to act in courage by either approaching that prospect, or speaking to that member of the opposite sex who you're afraid of being rejected by, you give that fear a new context. And the more persistent you are in confronting your fear with acts of courage, the less like fear it will seem, and the more excitement you'll feel. This is the fastest and most effective way to stamp out "negative" thoughts. Now, in case you're thinking that this sounds way too simple to be true... Making the Switch Have you ever changed your mind about something? Of course you have...but what really changed? Most likely it wasn't your mind, it was your actions...and those actions changed because your priorities changed. In other words, you decided that a new action was more important than your original action. This is exactly the key to reframing your thoughts by taking new and empowering actions. The next time your overwhelmed by worry or fear, or any other kind of negative thought, ask yourself this: "What action is this negative thought keeping me from taking?" If the action is stupid or if you don't have it planned out, then your "negative" thought might be completely valid. It might be telling you that you need to develop a more solid plan of action. But if the action is something which would be beneficial to you or someone you care about, redirect your focus to what's really important. Your thoughts and emotions are influenced by what you focus on, and the more you focus on what's important to you, the less thoughts and feelings of fear and worry will hinder you from taking positive action. You'll also be more empowered to confront your negative thoughts with acts of courage, and those actions will reframe your thoughts. TIP: The next time that you have a "negative" thought, stop and think about what that thought might be trying to tell you. Most often, once you discover the source of your negative thoughts, they lose their power to influence you. But if you keep trying to bury them, you'll miss the insight that they hold, and the more persistent they'll become. But you know what, if you're just angry...and WANT to be angry - that's okay. Have your fill... ....And when you're ready to stamp out anger, depression or money issues from your life for good, check out the "Attractor Genie" which in my opinion has a superb method for becoming positive: http://www.the-secret-dvd.net/go/attractor2.html To your success, Mike David Edito:)sayangi diri anda...salam sayang..sayang selalu....Sayang Shikin
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Thursday, March 17, 2011
Why Positive Thinking Makes Me Angry Sometimes
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